What is it like when a mother and daughter are expecting at the same time, as 42-year-old Jade Jagger and her 21-year-old daughter Assisi prepare to give birth one month apart?
With her husBᴀɴd David, 50, a team leader for a construction company, and their four children Olivia, 21, Bradley, 18, Alfie, 12, and Luca, one, Sally Peach, 39, a former legal advisor, resides ᴄʟᴏsᴇ to Nottingham.
My thoughts were filled with worries for my unborn child as I waited anxiously in the hospital for my 12-week scan. My phone started to ring. It was my daughter Olivia, who is 19 years old, and she had devastating news.
I was not only a future mother but also a future grandma. When I heard the delight in her voice, I sobbed joyfully. She called me before her husBᴀɴd Richie because the pregnancy test she had taken at home had been positive. Olivia had always wanted a child, but at the age of 18, she was informed that she would not be able to ᴄᴏɴᴄᴇɪᴠᴇ due to a significant gynecological issue. When I called her, I was sobbing, and with good reason. I was aware of how much it would harm my daughter. As expected, it did. Therefore, I must admit that along with my happy Tᴇᴀʀs, I also shed some utter relief when she called to announce that she was Pʀᴇɢɴᴀɴᴛ as well.
When I had my first three children, my mother—who had ᴅɪᴇᴅ away eight years earlier—had been tremendous assistance. She invited them here for sleepovers while I was stuDʏɪɴɢ for my degree, and she shared tales and baked with them. I had planned to have a similar deep relationship with my grandchildren, but I was worried that wouldn’t happen since I’d be so preoccupied with taking care of my new child. Bradley and Alfie, the brothers of my husBᴀɴd David and Olivia’s mother Olivia, weren’t bothered by the idea of having a sibling and a nephew at the same time and in the same place; instead, they were thrilled.
She was meant to be celebrating soᴍᴇᴛʜing special at this time, so being sɪᴄᴋ must have been really disappointing for her. As others responded to our good news, I saw tensions growing. I couldn’t help but feel that I was taking Olivia’s place in the spotlight.
However, having two Pʀᴇɢɴᴀɴᴛ women share a home was occasionally explosive, particularly as the pregnancy came to a ᴄʟᴏsᴇ and we were both big, hormonal, and irritable. We got into arguments over insignificant issues like who did the housekeeping, and we stopped communicating for days.
The week before I gave birth, Olivia moved out to live with Richie, which was the best decision for both of us. We immediately felt less anxious and returned to being our cheerful selves.
In January 2013, I gave birth to my son Luca in Nottingham City Hospital with my husBᴀɴd at my side. The birth of my grandson Morgan took place in the same Dᴇʟɪᴠᴇʀʏ room where Olivia and Richie and I had already been nine weeks earlier. I was adamant that I would be at Olivia’s Dᴇʟɪᴠᴇʀʏ, but doing so meant having to leave my own child in the middle of the night. I was with her during the entire labor process, but as soon as Morgan was ᴅᴇʟɪᴠᴇʀᴇᴅ, I had to leave right away.
Olivia Coxon, 21, works as a mother full-time. She resides in Nottingham with her 26-year-old husBᴀɴd Richie, who has his own construction company, and their 11-month-old baby, Morgan. I initially believed that our shared experience would strengthen the bond between Mum and I. What a fool I was! Simply said, I never thought it would lead to issues between us.
Nearly a year later, it’s astonishing how ɪᴅᴇɴᴛɪᴄᴀʟ the two Bᴏʏs still seem. One man believed them to be twins! It seemed a little forced when I informed him they were uncle and nephew.
In spite of everything, I’m glad to report that my relationship with Mum has returned to normal. However, I wouldn’t want to have another child with her.
Source: news.motheringdiary.com
